Suggested Books

Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed by Debra Laaser
This sensitive and practical guide offers proven tools that help women struggling with sexual betrayal make wise and empowering decisions. Shattered Vows is inspired by the author’s personal journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage two decades after the disclosure of her husband’s infidelity.

 

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens, Marsha Means
Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma. Barbara Steffens’ groundbreaking new research shows that partners are not codependents but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means’ personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships.

 

Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey by Richard Blakenship
Trauma and HealingSpouses of Sex Addicts are Trauma SurvivorsFacing the devastation of a partner’s sexual addiction begins with feelings of grief, pain, and trauma. Amazingly it is a journey that can lead to hope and healing. The trauma is massive, and the journey is difficult. This book has been written using the stories of many spouses who have navigated their way through the darkness of the night and into the light of hope and healing.

 

Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners by Milton Magness
Compulsive sexual behavior is often difficult to face. Sex addiction results in countless negative consequences and hurts many people. Relationships, marriages, families, and careers are destroyed. Anyone afflicted with sex addiction, as well as the people who love them, can find help within this book.

 

 

Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners by Milton Magness
Dr. Milton S. Magness offers sexual addicts and their partners step-by-step guidance on working through the phases of recovery. Readers learn about disclosure, celibacy contracts, relapse, and how to rebuild broken trust. This is a compassionate yet straightforward primer on how to end sexual addiction.

 

 

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legitimate boundaries? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy or money? Aren’t boundaries selfish? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

 

Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Learn when to say yes and when to say no–to your spouse and to others–to make the most of your marriage. Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other s needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the property lines that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning best-seller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for. Boundaries in Marriage helps couples: Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage Protect their marriage from different kinds of intruders Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries or work with one who doesn’t.”

 

Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back by Stephen Arterburn, Jason B. Martinkus
Few challenges in life are as difficult as regaining a wife’s trust—and few are as ultimately worthwhile. Trust can be rebuilt in your marriage! With patient, loving, self-sacrificing effort, it’s possible that one day your wife will risk her heart with you again. And she may even have more respect and love for you than before. In Worthy of Her Trust, Jason Martinkus relates how he repaired his own marriage after revelations of sexual addiction. Along with Stephen Arterburn, Jason offers exercises and tools rooted in counseling principles to help your marriage begin again.

 

Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage by Meg Wilson
Countless women have been blindsided by their husband’s sexual addiction. It is a shocking discovery that can leave women feeling hurt, ashamed, and even guilty. In “Hope After Betrayal,” Meg Wilson offers reassuring counsel, compassionate insight, and wise discretion–gently taking her readers through the steps to recovery. Combining Scripture and her own experience, Wilson reassures her readers that there is hope and healing after betrayal.

 

Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes
Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research–and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction–this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.

 

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Lasser
Mark has eloquently unraveled the mystery behind addictive behavior: when our relationships are not alive and growing, the temptation for various kinds of addictions is unleashed.. Dr. Gary Smalley With today s rampant availability of Internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a national epidemic that affects up to 10 percent of Christians. As devastating as any drug habit, it brings heartbreak and despair to those it entangles. But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction s downward spiral. This book offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors to healing and transformation. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of the problem, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity. Previously titled Faithful and True, this revision includes an all-new section that deals with sexual addiction in the church. Other important changes reflect cultural trends, incorporate current research, and place a greater emphasis on spiritual growth. This book also addresses the unique needs and issues of female sex addicts. Whether you know someone with a sexual addiction or struggle yourself, Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction points the way to understanding, wholeness, and holiness.”

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick
17288589You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.     For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse.

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